Death and Life

The Meaning of Life is That it Stops

The Meaning of Life is That it Stops

The meaning of life is that it stops. One of the cards in The Death Deck asks if you would want to live forever if you could. Most people answer ...
What Happens After President Jimmy Carter is on Hospice for Six Months?

What Happens After President Jimmy Carter is on Hospice for Six Months?

Former President, Jimmy Carter has now been on hospice five months, which begs the question, “How long can someone be receiving hospice services f...
It was Time to Listen to my Mom

It was Time to Listen to my Mom

“I realized in that moment, that I needed to stop thinking about what I want, which was every last second with my mom, and start thinking about wh...
Death is an Achievement

Death is an Achievement

  I’ve had the privilege of mentoring and supervising MSW interns this year at my hospice job. I’ve been supervising interns for many years and ...
Million Little Things Shows the Weight of Anticipatory Grief

Million Little Things Shows the Weight of Anticipatory Grief

The second to last episode of the series  Million Little Things showed the challenges that people with a terminal diagnosis (and those that love them) experience at the end of their life.
Why is it So Hard to Tell Me What I Already Know; I’m Dying

Why is it So Hard to Tell Me What I Already Know; I’m Dying

“Frank” was pissed off when I met him. He wasn’t afraid to talk about it, either. He was upset that he felt like everyone was trying to protect him from the fact that he was dying. “I know damn well that I’m dying.” He told me that he thought the doctors and other medical professionals that he encountered were “cowards” for not being direct with him.

The Complexities of Living Beyond a Prognosis

The Complexities of Living Beyond a Prognosis

When someone lives far beyond the prognosis that has been given, for reasons often unknown to healthcare professionals, it would seem that they wo...
End-of-Life Professionals Can Help The Dying Feel Less Alone

End-of-Life Professionals Can Help The Dying Feel Less Alone

“If I was healthy, there’s no way I would want to die. But this, how I’m living, it’s exhausting. I’m okay if death sneaks in one night to rescue...
I Just Wish I Didn’t Feel So Alone With My Dying Thoughts

I Just Wish I Didn’t Feel So Alone With My Dying Thoughts

I had a Hospice patient “Mary” that I was seeing weekly for emotional support. Initially, she was living alone and fiercely independent, as many ...
I Tried (And Failed) To Give The Perfect Death

I Tried (And Failed) To Give The Perfect Death

When I began caregiving for my mother-in-law, I came in with an agenda. Over the course of her illness, I understood that I had to put aside my idealized version of what this “good death” was going to be. She wasn’t my project to have the most prepared ending ever. This was her dying journey, not mine. 
Human Composting. Want The Dirt?

Human Composting. Want The Dirt?

Guest Blogger Katey Houston of Return Home shares the ins and outs of an alternative to burial and cremation. Human composting, sometimes called Natural Organic Reduction, is an age-old science optimized to take human remains and gently transform them into rich, life-giving soil.
How to Repurpose Your Dead Relative's Stuff Into a Meaningful Keepsake

How to Repurpose Your Dead Relative's Stuff Into a Meaningful Keepsake

When someone dies, there's so much stuff to sort through. What to do with a half finished hand-crafted table left behind by a deceased grandpa? Guest Blogger Jerry Pahl tells the story of how he found a new purpose and home for Grandpa's table.